Affirmation & Appreciation

Appreciation means to raise in value. When you appreciate someone, you are increasing that person’s self-worth. People involved in ministry are starving for affirmation. When you’re with people, give more strokes than pokes. Do this by affirming others’ efforts, their loyalty, their differences, and their ideas.

Key Questions

How are you affirming people?
How often are you affirming people?
Who is the most difficult person to affirm?
What positives can you see in this person?
How can you affirm these positives?

Management of Mistakes

Mistakes are useful because they teach us what doesn’t work. Don’t call it a mistake; call it an experiment. If you’re making mistakes it means you’re taking risks and trying.

What mistakes have you made which you can learn from? How is God refining your character through your mistakes and mistakes of others?

Meet with people regularly to listen & share their dreams

Six questions that help people move forward:

1. What are your dreams and visions?
2. How are you progressing with your dreams and visions – what practical steps are you taking?
3. What difficulties are you having in these areas?
4. What decisions do you need to make?
5. What prayer needs do you have?
6. What resources do you need from me?

Open Communication

Poor communication is the number-one cause of problems among church members. People tend to be down on things they’re not up on. There are three primary blockages to communication.

1. Presumption

Don’t assume there is only one way to do things;
Don’t assume everyone thinks like you;
Don’t assume people’s motives;
Don’t assume that people stay the same.

2. Impatience

Be quick to listen and slow to speak. James 1:19

3. Pride

The root behind contention is usually pride and selfishness.

So, how do you remove blocks in communication? First, learn to ask questions. Second, learn to listen with your eyes.  Don’t just listen to words, look at body language.

Key Questions

How are you practicing listening first?
Have you made assumptions?
What are you going to do to correct assumptions made that have been unhelpful?


Give others credit. (Rm 12:10). You can’t give too much credit and recognition to those under your supervision. Praise your leaders in public. Celebrate their successes and write them handwritten notes.

How have you given recognition and praise?
In what practical ways do you give recognition?
What will you do to become more proactive in recognising people?

Keep learning

All leaders are learners. The moment you stop learning you stop leading. “The intelligent person is always open to new ideas. In fact he looks for them.” Prov 18:15.  Encourage learning around you by being a learner. Send your leaders copies of good articles, tapes, etc. Model learning.

What ways are you encouraging learning around you?
What have you read lately that might be good to give to others?